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April 7, 2017

Tanne

I grew up and learned from my mistakes and developed the courage to live for me and no one else.

Dear Jess,

I am a lesbian living in a homophobic country from a very homophobic family. When I was younger I struggled with being gay. I always knew I liked girl but being raised in the church I followed the path that was “right”, although not right for me. During those years I had no one to turn to, no one to express this turmoil that I was facing in my teenage years. It affected my self-esteem because of fear of being rejected and this caused a string of bad decisions that still affects my personal life today. I tried hard ‘not to be me’; to be someone else and be the person my family and society wanted me to be.

I grew up and learned from my mistakes and developed the courage to live for me and no one else. It took me a while to come into myself and embrace me. I am still not very open about my sexuality, mainly because of my family, however I have now a group of friends now that support me and they are my pillar of strength. I know if had the support when was younger my struggles would have been different. Whilst I appreciate the struggle as it has made into a very strong woman, it was hard and a heavy load to carry on my own.

Love,

Tanne

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